Why am I being ghosted by the job I want? 3 tips to cope with job rejection

Posted on: 6 October 2023 by Emilia Thomas in Hints, tips and advice

Job rejection is something we all deal with - whether it be for a part-time student job you want for some extra cash, a placement, or a graduate job.

It can seem like an attack on our sense of self, personality, intellect, the list goes on. But together, we need to reframe this thinking. Think ‘rejection is redirection’ but some actually useful information that isn’t just a hyperbole.

Don’t take it personally: they don’t know you that well!

We are past our era of getting validation from an employer that barely even knows you. It’s so easy to focus on the ‘’I wasn’t good enough for them’’ stance, or completely pick yourself apart for the little things that may have happened within the interview process. 

Let’s focus on why you would be amazing in a role that understands what an asset you are to their team- they’ll be so grateful they found someone as amazing as you! 

You also have skills and talent outside the realm of this job that they don’t even know– never pigeonhole yourself into thinking this is the be-all and end-all.

Don’t make it deep, refocus your attention

Don’t be afraid to ask for feedback. Obviously, keep in mind the things you can improve on for the next interview, but don’t forget to pat yourself on the back for the things you did well. Every applicant for every job has things that would make them better, no one is a perfect 10/10. What makes you stand out is if you can look this feedback objectively and take it on for next time.

With this in mind, always remember step 1 – don’t take it as an attack. You could even use this feedback to apply for roles that will benefit from your strong skillset more! 

Keep going!

I know the term resilience gets thrown about a lot, and it can feel like a mile off when you are constantly being met with a brick wall of rejections. But if you think about it, applying for the job is such a small part of starting a career you absolutely love. You just have to keep going. It’s just character-building, all for the plot.

If you need any extra help with Job applications or advice, the Careers Studio is open Monday-Friday for UOL students and graduates. CV’s, cover letters, interview guidance to keep your chin up and boost your #careerconfidence  – we’re here for you!

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